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The domesticated man

Updated: Oct 9

In a delightful twist of evolutionary irony, it appears that the journey from mighty mastodons to modern man has taken quite the unforeseen detour—a march not so much towards the pinnacle of masculinity, but rather a decline into a pig farm. Once heralded as the beacons of ruggedness and stoic resolve, the contemporary male specimen seems to have embraced a softer, shall we say, more 'fragile' approach to existence. No longer confined by the brutal expectations of chest-thumping and mammoth hunting, modern gents now navigate a complex labyrinth where emotional availability and the often mocked 'feminine touch' are earning them labels they never anticipated. Far from the 'oinks' one might associate with their farmyard counterparts, this breed of men finds themselves squealing under the weight of a society wrestling with its ideas of masculinity. Are they just pigs in a progressive blanket or trailblazers in the fine art of redefining manhood? As we delve into the transformation of masculinity through the ages, let's chew on the notion that evolution may have given men not tusks and muscle, but the gift of metamorphosis into something entirely unexpected.


THE HISTORY OF HOW MEN HAVE EVOLVED


The term "human evolution,” refers to the historical and progressive biological transition that took place between our species' most ape-like predecessors, and its current form, Homo sapiens.

This process started on the African continent 5–7 million years ago, when chimpanzees (Pan troglodytes) and humans (species of the hominid lineage) emerged from a shared ancestor. Although there have been other members of the species Homo, when we discuss humans, we are strictly speaking referring to Homo sapiens. Many animals that lived before us (during our prehistory) are now extinct, yet they share many morphological, biological, and behavioral traits.


When a group of apes in northwest Africa split into two lineages and underwent autonomous development, one branch continued to live in the trees while the other adapted to live on the plains, which is how human evolution began. Subsequent generations of this last lineage evolved bipedalism—the capacity to walk on both lower limbs—due to environmental stresses, freeing up the upper limbs that would eventually develop into hands for manipulating tools.


Human evolution includes the emergence of the following main species (other minor ones were not a vital part of the evolutionary tree): Ardipithecus, which lived in East Africa between 4 and 6 million years ago and is near the "root" of the human family tree. The shape of the fossil toe bones suggests that he walked upright. Archaeology, paleontology, geology, and other similar sciences were instrumental in studying this process. However, the most significant contribution to understanding its origins was made possible by Charles Darwin's studies and the Theory of the Origin of Species. The way the fossilized toe bones are shaped indicates that he walked erect.


The first human remains date back to about 140,000 and 195,000 years ago. Current people are gifted with current behavior and facial features. Anatomically, modern humans were the only members of the species Homo that survived until about 30,000 years ago. This species would have become the modern form of humanity, ruling the whole planet and purposefully or unintentionally driving all other Homo species extinct.


This was a subtle dive into our species’ history. However, at this point, I would like to “segway” towards modern times. Before I do that, I would like to share my thesis, which was initially inspired by a TikTok video. Never thought I would be referring to a TikTok video before. However, we live in different times now. 


The reason that there is such a void of male role models for young men is that, we do not have adult males in our population or on screens anymore. What do I mean by that? Most of them are not physiologically adult human males. I have written about this topic a lot & the scarcity of physiologically and psychologically developed men troubles me. In biology, there's this thing called neoteny. Essentially, it’s an organism that will retain juvenile traits as it ages, especially if it doesn't get stressed out enough. 

When I was growing up, high school students, especially the ones in 10th or 11th grade, already looked like adults. Our generation or the generations before us were not domesticated. We grew up in more stressful environments. We were exposed to nature, to the “outside world” more.


These environments caused our adrenal glands to up-regulate, which caused higher testosterone levels, which made past-generation teenagers look like adults while still juveniles. Every organism has multiple phenotypes or physical characteristics dictated by genes. 


What dictates which genes to get expressed is the environment. The best example of this is pigs. Have you ever seen a domesticated pig? Silky smooth and “Barbie” pink color? That is not even a healthy phenotype. If you take a domesticated pig and you release it into the wild. After six months, you have a boar that has grown thick, with curly hair and tusks. Why? 


Well, in stressful environments adrenal glands up-regulate, testosterone levels increase & a pig becomes a boar. Other examples are wolves and foxes. If you start to breed or domesticate wolves and foxes, their adrenal glands get smaller. They start developing floppy ears, curly hair and spots, all things we can see in domesticated dogs.


All right, now you understand it is all based on the adrenal glands. Have a look at the population of adult men right now. What do we have? Men have never had lower testosterone and higher fat to muscle ratio levels. Those are both juvenile characteristics. That is because, from a young age, men are domesticated. Men are becoming similar to domesticated animals. The reason why young men have no one to look up to is because, a little piglet wouldn't look up to a pig. It wants to be a fucking boar and all it sees around are pigs.


THE HISTORY OF HOW MEN HAVE EVOLVED


The evolution of men throughout history is a fascinating narrative that spans millennia, encompassing a vast array of cultural, social, and technological changes. From the earliest hunter-gatherer societies to the complexities of modern urban life, masculinity has been shaped by many factors, including economic structures, religious beliefs, and political systems.


In ancient times, the roles of men were often defined by their physical strength and ability to provide for their families. In hunter-gatherer societies, men typically took on the role of hunters, venturing into the wilderness to secure food and resources. At the same time, women stayed closer to home, tending to domestic duties and childcare. These gender roles were rooted in practicality and survival, with men and women each contributing to the community's overall well-being. That gender division was initiated when people understood that in order to preserve their tribe and it’s potential for growth - women have to stay behind. The classical role division of the men being protectors & the women being caretakers have been settled thousands of years ago.


As human societies began to transition from nomadic lifestyles to settled civilizations, the roles of men became more varied and complex. With the advent of agriculture, men took on the responsibility of cultivating the land and raising livestock, while women managed household affairs. The emergence of hierarchical societies saw the rise of warrior classes, where men proved their bravery on the battlefield and earned prestige through acts of bravery and conquest.


Throughout classical antiquity, ideals of masculinity were closely tied to concepts of honor, courage, and tenacity. In ancient Greece, for example, men were expected to excel in physical and intellectual pursuits, embodying the virtues of the ideal citizen-soldier. Similarly, in ancient Rome, masculinity was associated with strength, discipline, and a sense of duty to the state.


The Middle Ages ushered in an era of feudalism and chivalry, where knights and noblemen epitomized the ideals of masculinity. Chivalric codes emphasized loyalty, bravery, and courtesy, as knights pledged their swords to defend the weak and uphold the values of honor, honor, and virtue. Medieval literature celebrated tales of heroic deeds and courtly love, shaping romanticized notions of masculinity that would endure for centuries.


The Renaissance and Enlightenment periods brought a resurgence of interest in classical ideals as artists and intellectuals sought to revive the glories of ancient civilizations. Leonardo da Vinci and Michelangelo explored themes of masculinity and identity through their art, while philosophers like Descartes and Locke pondered the nature of man and his place in the universe.


The Industrial Revolution marked a turning point in the history of masculinity, as urbanization and technological advancements transformed the fabric of society. Men flocked to cities to work in factories and mills, leaving behind rural lifestyles for the promise of economic opportunity. The rise of capitalism and consumer culture created new avenues for self-definition as men sought to assert their masculinity through material success and social status.


The 20th century witnessed the upheaval of two world wars, which had profound implications for the evolution of masculinity. The horrors of combat challenged traditional notions of heroism and sacrifice as men grappled with the psychological and emotional toll of warfare. The post-war era saw the emergence of new cultural movements and social upheavals, from the civil rights movement to second-wave feminism, which called into question established norms of gender and identity.


In the 21st century, the internet and digital technology have revolutionized how men interact with the world. Social media platforms offer new avenues for self-expression and connection, while online communities provide spaces for men to explore issues of identity and masculinity. 


The history of men is a complex and multifaceted story that reflects the ever-changing nature of human society. From ancient hunter-gatherers to modern-day urbanites, masculinity has been shaped by myriad influences, each leaving its mark on the evolving concept of being a man. As we continue to navigate the complexities of gender and identity in the 21st century, may we strive to embrace the diversity of human experience and celebrate the rich tapestry of masculinity in all its forms.


HOW MEN AS GENDER HAVE CHANGED IN THE LAST DECADES DUE TO LIFESTYLE CHANGES


As the curtains draw back on the 21st century, we find ourselves amidst a comedic reimagining of what it means to be a man. From the rise of the metrosexual to the embrace of emotional vulnerability, the script has been flipped, and the audience is left roaring with laughter at the absurdity of it all.


Once upon a time, grooming was a foreign concept to the average man. A quick splash of water, a perfunctory swipe of deodorant, and he was ready to conquer the day. But oh, how times have changed. Enter the era of the metrosexual – a breed of man who spends more time in the bathroom than his female counterparts, meticulously sculpting his facial hair and slathering on serums with the enthusiasm of a Renaissance painter. Who needs a toolbox when you have a ten-step skincare routine?

And then there's the dad bod – a phenomenon that has taken the world by storm. Gone are the days when six-pack abs were the ultimate symbol of masculinity. In their place, we find a celebration of beer bellies. Who needs a gym membership when you can spend quality time with your Netflix account and a bag of potato chips?


But it's not just physical appearance that's transformed. The very fabric of masculinity has been rewoven, with traditional gender roles unraveling at the seams. Once relegated to the boardroom or the battlefield, men now embrace roles as caregivers, nurturers, and emotional supports. “Stay at home dads”…Really?!

And let's not forget the evolution of the man cave – once a sacred sanctuary filled with oversized TVs and an endless supply of beer, now transformed into a temple of mindfulness and self-discovery. Yoga mats replace barstools, meditation apps replace football games, and instead of drowning their sorrows in alcohol, men are learning to confront their emotions head-on, armed with nothing but a cup of herbal tea and a guided meditation session.


In this brave new world of masculinity, vulnerability is not just accepted – it's celebrated. Men open up about their feelings, seek therapy when needed, and form deep emotional connections with friends and loved ones. Tears are no longer seen as a sign of weakness but a testament to the strength it takes to be truly human.


So here's to the modern man – a complex, contradictory creature navigating a constantly changing world. May he continue to evolve and adapt and never underestimate the power of a good facial moisturizer. After all, a little laughter goes a long way in a world as absurd as ours. Cheers!


HOW MEN AS GENDER HAVE CHANGED IN THE LAST DECADES DUE TO NUTRITION


Historically, the relationship between men and food has been closely tied to traditional notions of “Balkan breakfasts”. In many cultures, men were expected to embody strength, resilience, and vitality – often associated with hearty, meat-centric diets. The image of the rugged hunter-gatherer, fueled by animal protein and the spoils of the hunt, served as a paradigmatic ideal of manhood.


However, as societies have progressed and scientific understanding of nutrition has advanced, our perception of what constitutes a healthy diet has evolved. In recent decades, there has been a growing recognition of the importance of balanced nutrition, characterized by a diverse array of foods that provide essential nutrients for optimal health. This shift has been driven by various factors, including scientific research, public health initiatives, changing cultural attitudes toward food & countless number of lifestyle bloggers.


One notable trend in men's nutrition has been the increasing popularity of plant-based diets. Traditionally, meat consumption has been closely linked to notions of masculinity, with meat often symbolizing strength and virility. However, as awareness of the health and environmental benefits of plant-based eating has grown, many men have begun to embrace vegetarianism and veganism as viable dietary choices. Plant-based diets, rich in fruits, vegetables, grains, and legumes, offer numerous health benefits, including lower risk of heart disease, obesity, and certain cancers. Additionally, plant-based eating aligns with broader cultural shifts towards sustainability and ethical consumption, appealing to men's growing awareness of the interconnectedness of food, health, and the environment. Did you know that some people do not eat figs? Well here is why, according to plantbasednews.org 


Some types of figs are pollinated by “fig wasps” who enter and lay their eggs inside them. These wasps and fig trees rely on each other to reproduce, with scientists believing they evolved alongside each other. The wasp pollinates the fig tree, and the tree in turn pollinates the wasp by enabling them to lay their eggs inside it. 


When entering the tree, the female wasp will often lose her wings in the process, meaning she is unable to get out. After laying her eggs, she will then die inside the fig. This leads many to believe that the figs we buy in the supermarket contain wasps, and are therefore unsuitable for vegans. 


In the meantime no one is asking questions about how many insects are killed during cultivation process of avocados. I will hold on to my further sarcastic comments.


Another significant development in men's nutrition has been the rise of functional foods and dietary supplements. In an age where optimal performance and peak physical condition are prized, many men have turned to supplements and specialized diets to enhance their health and fitness goals. Protein powders, pre-workout supplements, and meal replacement shakes have become ubiquitous in the fitness industry, promising to boost muscle growth, improve athletic performance, and aid in weight loss. While these products can be valuable tools for some individuals, their widespread use also raises concerns about the potential for over-reliance on supplements and the importance of obtaining nutrients from whole, minimally processed foods.


Despite these positive developments, men's nutrition faces significant challenges and disparities. In many communities, access to healthy, affordable food remains limited, contributing to disparities in diet-related health outcomes. Additionally, cultural norms and societal expectations around food and masculinity can create barriers to adopting healthier eating habits. Men may feel pressure to adhere to traditional gender roles and dietary norms, leading to reluctance to explore alternative dietary patterns or seek help for eating-related issues.


Moreover and the most important drastic change, the prevalence of processed foods, fast food, and sugary beverages poses significant risks to men's health. These highly palatable, calorie-dense foods are often marketed aggressively to us, capitalizing on stereotypes of masculinity and promoting indulgence and excess. The overconsumption of processed foods has been linked to a host of health problems, including obesity, type 2 diabetes, and cardiovascular disease, underscoring the need for greater awareness of the importance of balanced nutrition and moderation in dietary choices.


The evolution of men's nutrition in recent decades reflects broader shifts in societal attitudes toward food & men’s health. While progress has been made in promoting healthier eating habits and challenging traditional dietary norms, significant challenges remain in addressing disparities in nutritious food and overcoming cultural barriers to adopting healthier lifestyles. Efforts to promote nutrition education, improve food access, and challenge harmful stereotypes around food and masculinity will support men's health and well-being in the 21st century.


HOW MEN AS GENDER HAVE CHANGED IN THE LAST DECADES DUE TO DOMESTICATION


Let us journey back to when men were the kings of the jungle, ruling over their domains with swagger and bravado. The hunt was their domain, and they pursued their prey with the ferocity of a lion on the savannah. But as civilization dawned and the comforts of home beckoned, men faced a new challenge – the daunting task of domesticity.


In the age of domestication, masculinity is being redefined – not as the hunter-gatherer of old, but as the caregiver, the nurturer, and the partner in crime. Men may stumble and bumble through the trials of domestic life, but they do so with a sense of humor and a willingness to learn. After all, in a world as absurd as ours, sometimes the best thing you can do is laugh – preferably while wearing an apron.

So here's to the modern man – may he continue to navigate the chaos of domesticity with grace and good humor, armed with nothing but a sense of adventure and cookbook app. After all, in the comedy of life, there's no script, no rehearsals – just a series of improvisations and pitfalls, with laughter as our only guide. Cheers to the men who dare to brave the wilds of domestic life – may your aprons be forever spotless and your dinners never burnt.


Now, let's delve deeper into the nuances of how domestication has reshaped masculinity throughout history.


Throughout history, the evolution of men in response to domestication is a multifaceted tale that spans epochs and civilizations. From the dawn of agriculture to modern technology, the roles and expectations placed upon men within the domestic sphere have undergone significant transformation. To understand the full scope of this evolution, we must explore how societal norms, cultural shifts, and technological advancements have shaped the masculine experience.


The transition from hunter-gatherer societies to agricultural civilizations marked a pivotal moment in the history of masculinity. As early humans settled into permanent settlements and began cultivating crops, the division of labor became increasingly stratified along gender lines. Men assumed the role of primary breadwinners and land cultivators, while women tended to domestic chores and childcare. This division of labor, while rooted in practical necessity, also served to reinforce gendered expectations and stereotypes, with men as the providers and women as the caretakers.


Throughout the ancient world, from Mesopotamia to Egypt to China, patriarchal structures emerged as dominant social systems, further cementing the roles of men as heads of households and arbiters of authority. In these societies, masculinity was often equated with strength, virility, and the ability to protect and provide for one's family. Men were expected to exhibit courage, honor, and stoicism, while emotions and vulnerability were often viewed as signs of weakness.


However, as societies evolved and cultures intermingled, the concept of masculinity began to take on new dimensions. The rise of empires such as Greece and Rome introduced ideals of heroism, chivalry, and intellectual prowess into the masculine ethos. Philosophers and poets extolled the virtues of the noble warrior and the romantic lover, reshaping societal perceptions of being a man.


The Middle Ages ushered in an era of feudalism and chivalry, where knights and noblemen epitomized the ideals of masculinity. Chivalric codes emphasized loyalty, bravery, and courtesy, as knights pledged their swords to defend the weak and uphold the values of honor and virtue. Medieval literature celebrated tales of heroic deeds and courtly love, shaping romanticized notions of masculinity that would endure for centuries.


The Renaissance brought with it a resurgence of interest in classical ideals as artists and intellectuals sought to revive the glories of ancient civilizations. The Enlightenment ushered in an era of scientific discovery and rational thought, challenging traditional notions of masculinity and paving the way for new modes of self-expression and individualism.


The Industrial Revolution heralded a seismic shift in the lives of men, as urbanization and technological advancements transformed the fabric of society. Men flocked to cities to work in factories and mills, leaving behind rural lifestyles for the promise of economic opportunity. The rise of capitalism and consumer culture created new avenues for self-definition as men sought to assert their masculinity through material success and social status.


The 20th century witnessed the upheaval of two world wars, which reshaped the landscape of masculinity in profound ways. The horrors of combat challenged traditional notions of heroism and sacrifice as men grappled with the psychological and emotional toll of warfare. The post-war era saw the emergence of new cultural movements and social upheavals, from the civil rights movement to second-wave feminism, which called into question established norms of gender and identity.


In the 21st century, the internet and digital technology have revolutionized how men interact with the world. Social media platforms offer new avenues for self-expression and connection, while online communities provide spaces for men to explore issues of identity and masculinity. The rise of feminism and LGBTQ+ rights has prompted a reevaluation of traditional gender roles, challenging men to confront notions of privilege and power.


The history of men and domestication is a complex tapestry woven from threads of tradition, change, and adaptation. From the hunter-gatherer societies of antiquity to the digital landscapes of the modern world, men have navigated the shifting sands of masculinity with varying degrees of success and struggle. As we grapple with the complexities of gender and identity in the 21st century, may we strive to embrace the diversity of human experience and celebrate the rich tapestry of masculinity in all its forms.

Although I have repeated myself in previous paragraphs, I would like to add another point of view or a sub-section to domestication theory, which is exposure to nature. We are not designed to live in concrete jungles on top of each other, so far away from nature. However, this theory does not only get aligned with men only, but affects humanity in general. Therefore, this is another topic which might be unraveled in another time.


HOW MEN AS GENDER HAVE CHANGED IN THE LAST DECADES DUE TO TECHNOLOGY


The narrative of masculinity weaves a rich tapestry with threads of tradition, innovation, and the ever-constant march of progress. As we proceed lets dive into the realm of how men as gender got affected by the technological revolution. 


Cast your mind back to a time before smartphones and social media, when the internet was a fledgling invention and dial-up connections were the norm. I still remember that annoying sound of a dial up connection. Ah, the 90s.. In those simpler times, masculinity was often synonymous with physical strength and stoic silence – a relic of a bygone era when men were expected to be the strong, silent types, capable of fixing cars and grilling the perfect steak or kabab without breaking a sweat.

But then, like a bolt from the blue, the digital revolution descended upon us, transforming the very fabric of society and ushering in a new era of manhood. No longer confined to the dusty realms of hardware stores, pubs and sports bars, men found themselves thrust into a brave new world of pixels and algorithms, where the measure of a man was no longer his ability to wield a hammer but his proficiency with a keyboard and mouse.


Enter the age of the metrosexual – a phenomenon that swept across the cultural landscape like wildfire, leaving a trail of well-groomed men and bewildered barbers in its wake. Suddenly, the once-taboo realms of skincare and fashion became fair game for the modern man, as he embraced exfoliating scrubs. Who needs rugged masculinity when you can have perfectly manicured eyebrows and a five-step skincare routine?


But it wasn't just our appearance that underwent a digital makeover – the relentless onslaught of social media and online dating reshaped our identities. In the blink of an eye, the age-old courtship rituals were replaced by the swipe of a finger and the click of a mouse as men traded awkward small talk for emoji-centric conversations and carefully curated profile pictures. Who needs charm and charisma when you can have an aesthetic Instagram account?


And let’s not forget the impact of technology on our work and leisure pursuits. With the advent of remote work and virtual reality, men found themselves liberated from the confines of the office space, free to roam the digital wilderness in search of adventure and opportunity. Who needs a nine-to-six when you can work from home, clad in your pajamas, and a cup of coffee?


But amidst all the convenience and connectivity, a shadow loomed on the horizon – the specter of mental and emotional exhaustion brought on by the constant bombardment of notifications and updates. In our quest for digital perfection, we lost sight of human connection's messy, imperfect beauty, replacing heartfelt conversations with likes and shares and meaningful relationships with fleeting moments of validation. All of this spiraled onto adoption of terms like dopamine detox, high cortisol levels, social media detox, screen-time limitations and etc.


Amidst of all the possibilities social media has created for dating, it also took away the bravery that led men onto approaching women in the physical world. The dating paradigms have shifted severely. Tinder swipes, Spanish pineapple trend, special rings for single people - all these new trends, apps, risk aversiveness', fears of approaching are taking away the “spice” that we used to have.


So where does that leave us, dear reader, in this brave new world of digital masculinity? Perhaps it is time to pause, unplug from the matrix, and reconnect with the things that truly matter – the warmth of a loved one's embrace, the laughter of friends gathered around a table, and the simple joys of being present at the moment. Ultimately, it is not the number of followers or likes that define us but the depth of our humanity and the richness of our experiences. And who knows, maybe along the way, we'll rediscover what it truly means to be a man in the digital age – flaws, quirks, and along with perfect imperfections.


HOW MEN AS GENDER HAVE CHANGED IN THE LAST DECADES DUE TO ADVANCEMENTS IN MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS


Picture this: it's the 1950s, and masculinity reigns supreme, a towering monolith of strength, stoicism, and unyielding resolve. Men are expected to embody the ideals of the rugged individualist – strong, silent, and self-sufficient. Emotions are to be suppressed, vulnerabilities hidden beneath a facade of invincibility. Therapy is for the weak, and seeking help for mental health issues is tantamount to admitting defeat.

However, as the decades pass and society evolves, cracks begin forming in traditional masculinity's fortress. The civil rights movement, the women's liberation movement, and the LGBTQ+ rights movement all challenge the status quo, forcing society to confront its deeply ingrained prejudices and biases. Slowly but surely, the walls begin to crumble, and a new vision of masculinity emerges – one that is more inclusive, compassionate, and attuned to the complexities of the human experience.


Enter the era of mental health awareness – a watershed moment in the history of masculinity that has revolutionized the way we think about mental health and emotional well-being. No longer are men expected to suffer in silence, grappling with their inner demons alone. Instead, they are encouraged to open up, share their struggles, and seek help when needed. Therapy is no longer a dirty word but a beacon of hope for those navigating the turbulent waters of the mind.


Of course, embracing this new paradigm of masculinity has its challenges. For many men, the idea of vulnerability is still synonymous with weakness, and the thought of seeking help for mental health issues is met with shame and stigma. However, the tide is slowly turning as men of all ages and backgrounds begin to recognize the importance of prioritizing their mental health and well-being.


One of the key drivers of this shift has been the growing body of research linking mental health to physical health. Studies have shown that untreated mental health issues can have a profound impact on overall well-being, increasing the risk of chronic conditions such as heart disease, diabetes, and obesity. In other words, taking care of your mind is just as important as taking care of your body – a revelation that has prompted many men to reevaluate their attitudes toward mental health. A great book has been published by Gabor Matè, which outlines this specific topic - “When the body says, No”


But it's not just about preventing illness – it's also about fostering resilience and emotional intelligence. In today's fast-paced, hyper-connected world, navigating stress, managing emotions, and building healthy relationships is more important than ever. And yet, these skills are often overlooked in traditional notions of masculinity, which prioritize toughness and self-reliance above all else. By embracing mental health awareness, men can improve their well-being and become better narcissists, partners, parents, and friends.


Of course, navigating the world of mental health can be daunting, especially for those who are accustomed to keeping their emotions tightly guarded. But help is at hand in the form of therapists, support groups, and online resources, all of which offer a safe space for men to explore their feelings and find the support they need. And with each step taken towards healing and self-discovery, the walls of traditional masculinity grow a little weaker, making room for a new, more compassionate vision of what it means to be a man.


The advancements in mental health awareness have sparked a revolution in the world of masculinity, challenging age-old stereotypes and empowering men to embrace their emotional truths. From therapy sessions to support groups, from self-help books to mindfulness apps, the options for seeking help and support are more plentiful than ever before. And as men continue to break down the barriers that have long confined them to narrow boxes of masculinity, they pave the way for a future where emotional vulnerability is celebrated, not scorned, and where mental health is seen as a cornerstone of overall well-being.


HOW MEN AS GENDER HAVE CHANGED IN THE LAST DECADES DUE TO CULTURAL AND ENVIRONMENTAL FACTORS


In the not-so-distant past, the image of masculinity was carved from granite, rigid and unyielding to the winds of change. Men were expected to embody a narrow set of traits: strength, stoicism, and a knack for fixing things with a screwdriver and brute force. This archetype of the macho man dominated popular culture for much of the 20th century, with icons like John Wayne and Clint Eastwood, Bond series, Arny, Stallone and others setting the standard for what it meant to be a "real man."


However, as society evolved and cultural norms shifted, cracks began to form in the facade of traditional masculinity. From civil rights movement of the 1960s to the rise of feminism came a seismic shift in the way we view gender and power dynamics. Suddenly, the idea that men should be the sole breadwinners and protectors of the family seemed old-fashioned and out of touch. Women entered the workforce in droves, challenging men for positions of leadership and authority. The old paradigm of masculinity, with its emphasis on dominance and control, no longer held sway in a world where women were demanding to be seen and heard.


Meanwhile, the environmental landscape was transforming, largely thanks to advancements in technology and communication. The internet revolutionized how we connect, breaking down geographical barriers and creating virtual communities where people could explore and express themselves in previously unimaginable ways. Social media platforms like Facebook, X, and Instagram have become virtual soapboxes, allowing individuals to share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences with the world at the click of a button.


For men, this brave new world presented both opportunities and challenges. On the one hand, social media provides a platform for men to challenge traditional notions of masculinity and explore alternative ways of being in the world. Movements like #MeToo sparked conversations about consent, boundaries, and the power dynamics that underpin male-female relationships. Suddenly, men were being forced to confront uncomfortable truths about their behavior and how they may have contributed to a culture of toxic masculinity.


On the other hand, social media also gave rise to new forms of performative masculinity, where men felt pressured to project an image of strength, masculinity, and invincibility to the outside world. The rise of influencer culture only fueled this trend, with men competing for likes, followers, and validation in an endless game of one-upmanship.


Amid this cultural and environmental storm, a new archetype of masculinity began to emerge: the sensitive new-age guy. This man was in touch with his emotions, unafraid to express vulnerability, and willing to challenge traditional gender norms. He was the antithesis of the macho man, rejecting violence and aggression in favor of empathy and compassion. He read poetry, practiced yoga, and cried during romantic comedies—and he wasn't ashamed to admit it.


But even as the sensitive new-age guy gained traction in popular culture, he was not without his critics. Some accused him of being too soft, too sensitive, too feminine—a betrayal of the traditional masculine ideal. Others argued that he was simply a new iteration of the same old patriarchal system, a wolf in sheep's clothing masquerading as a champion of equality and progress.


And so the debate raged on, with men and women alike grappling with the question of what it truly means to be a man in the 21st century. Is masculinity an inherent biological trait hardwired into our DNA? Or is it a social construct shaped by cultural and environmental factors beyond our control? Perhaps the answer lies somewhere between a delicate balance between nature and nurture, biology and society.

One thing is certain: masculinity's evolution is far from over. As we continue to navigate the complexities of gender and identity in an ever-changing world, men will be forced to confront uncomfortable truths about themselves and the society in which they live. But if history has taught us anything, it's that change is inevitable—and sometimes, it's exactly what we need to break free from the constraints of the past and build a more inclusive, equitable future for all.


HOW MEN AS GENDER HAVE CHANGED IN THE LAST DECADES DUE TO WORK-LIFE BALANCE


Today's man finds himself traversing a delicate tightrope between the demands of work and the desire for a fulfilling personal life. This evolution, largely catalyzed by the shifting dynamics of society and the workforce, has ushered in a new era of what it means to be a man in the modern world.

Gone are the days when men were expected to prioritize their careers above all else, relegating personal pursuits and familial responsibilities to the periphery. Instead, the modern man grapples with the notion of work-life balance – a delicate equilibrium that necessitates the harmonization of professional ambitions with personal fulfillment. This paradigm shift has redefined the traditional constructs of masculinity and fostered a more holistic approach to life's myriad obligations.


Central to this evolution is the rise of the multitasking maestro – a new breed of man who adeptly juggles the demands of the office meeting room with the responsibilities of home life. No longer content to compartmentalize his existence into rigid categories of work and leisure, the modern man seamlessly transitions between professional obligations and domestic duties with finesse and skill. Whether participating in a high-stakes sales meeting or attending his daughters gymnastics competition, the multitasking maestro embodies the versatility and adaptability demanded by the modern world.


Yet, this newfound flexibility comes with its own set of challenges. As companies espouse the virtues of work-life balance, men grapple with the elusive pursuit of flexibility. Remote work, flexible hours, and unlimited vacation days promise liberation from the shackles of the traditional nine-to-five grind, yet often blur the lines between work and leisure. The modern man, glued to his devices and perpetually on call, must navigate the precarious balance between professional accessibility and personal boundaries.

In the realm of domesticity, the modern piggy has also undergone a remarkable transformation. No longer relegated to the periphery of household chores and child-rearing, men have embraced their active role in family life. From mastering the culinary arts to changing diapers, the modern man lives in the joys of domesticity, challenging traditional gender norms and redefining the parameters of fatherhood and partnership.


The evolution of masculinity in the context of work-life balance is a testament to the resilience and adaptability of the human spirit. From the rise of the multitasking maestro to the emotional awakening of the modern man, this journey is characterized by growth, introspection, and a willingness to challenge outdated norms. As society continues to evolve, so will the concept of masculinity, forging a path toward a more inclusive, compassionate, and balanced world for all.


HOW MEN AS GENDER HAVE CHANGED IN THE LAST DECADES DUE TO SEXUALITY AND RELATIONSHIPS


Gone are the days when masculinity was synonymous with stoic indifference and conquest-driven bravery. The archetypal "macho man" – characterized by swaggering confidence, emotional detachment, and a penchant for sexual conquests – has gradually given way to a more multifaceted portrayal of masculinity. This shift can be attributed, in part, to the influence of feminist movements, LGBTQ+ activism, and broader cultural conversations surrounding gender equality and sexual liberation.

The emergence of the "sensual sage" represents a new paradigm of masculinity – one that embraces emotional intelligence, sexual awareness, and a holistic approach to intimacy. Unlike his predecessor, the sensual sage seeks deeper connections and more meaningful experiences in romance. He recognizes that true fulfillment lies not in the number of conquests but in the quality of connections forged with partners.


In the realm of romantic relationships, the modern man faces a set of challenges and opportunities. The rise of digital dating platforms and hookup culture has transformed the courtship landscape, presenting new possibilities and potential pitfalls. The "romantic revolutionary" represents a new archetype of masculinity – one that defies the cynicism of modern romance and embraces the timeless virtues of chivalry, sincerity, and genuine connection.


At the heart of the modern man's evolution in sexuality and relationships lies a growing appreciation for emotional intimacy. No longer content to bury his feelings beneath a facade of stoicism, today's man embraces vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness. The modern man recognizes that emotional connection is the bedrock of fulfilling relationships.


The evolution of masculinity in sexuality and relationships is an ongoing journey of growth, self-discovery, and adaptation. From the myth of the macho man to the emergence of the sensual sage and the romantic revolutionary, men are navigating a complex and ever-changing landscape with humor, humility, and an unwavering commitment to authenticity. As societal norms continue to evolve and gender roles become increasingly fluid, the modern man remains steadfast in his pursuit of love, intimacy, and genuine connection – because that ultimately defines masculinity in the 21st century.


DESCENT OF TESTESTERONE & BIRTH OF PIGLETS (IN PROGRESS)


Dr Joshua Smith a research scientist is saying the following:


“The average testosterone level of a 60-year-old man in 1987 was around 17.5nmol/L, according to a 2007 study in Massachusetts. Compare that to a 60-year-old man in 2002 — his testosterone level was closer to 15nmol/L. Based on this, average testosterone levels in men are declining by 1% every year, give or take. A research carried out on Finnish and Danish populations has shown the same trend . And even more recently, a large-scale study of Israeli men has shown how average testosterone levels have dropped between 2006 and 2019  — by over 10% across almost every age category. Of course, we can’t know for certain that 60-year-old millennials and Gen Zers will have lower testosterone levels, at least not for a few decades, but it’s looking very likely."  


What’s concerning is testosterone levels aren’t the only problem. Sperm counts are dropping significantly and some reproductive disorders, like testicular cancer, are on the rise. Even men’s grip strength has declined. At this point you might ask, what has happened to men? What has changed in the last decades? What do we do more or less? Are we living, eating, moving and sleeping differently? You are seeing where I am getting right? I dare you to go to google and type in “beach photos from 50s, 60s or 70s”. You will see how those photos are different from what you saw on the beach this summer.

While many believe that decreased testosterone occurs only in older men, age is only one factor associated with your risk of low T. There are a variety of things you can do (like testosterone replacement therapy) and avoid that can affect your testosterone levels. I will outline some of them in a bit. Below you will find the fundamentals that require a shift, as testosterone continues dropping, there are a few factors men should consider:


Food - There have been hundreds of studies showing particular foods have detrimental effects on your testosterone. These include soy, nuts, fish, spearmint tea, some types of mushrooms, flaxseed, refined carbohydrates, and hormones in meat. To properly combat these effects, it’s important that you eat these foods in moderation. Processed foods & additives like Licorice root cause a lot of damage as well. Licorice root is an ingredient commonly used to sweeten candies and beverages. It is used as a flavoring in candy, beverages & tobacco products. Eating organic more, finding alternative sugar sources and other nutritional advices are detailed on my previous article called “Ali’s pyramid”.


Beverages - Along with foods that affect your testosterone levels, there are also beverages to avoid. Two of the most commonly known drinks are beer and water with high estrogen levels. Even moderate alcohol consumption has been found to decrease testosterone levels up to 6.8%. In my personal case, there were only 3 occasions during the last decade when I drank more than 2 glasses of alcohol – my wedding day, the day my daughter was born & at a wedding las summer in Turkey. Other than that, I might sip only 2-3 glasses of wine the most throughout any given year. I do not like how I feel after alcohol intake. You might also want to consider all those drinks which have a lot of sugar in them (carton packaged juices and fizzy drinks). Here is another weird fact that I stumbled on. Apparently drinking from plastic containers decreases testosterone as well. Many plastic containers, including plastic bottles, can develop Bisphenol-A, a synthetic chemical found in overheated plastic containers. 

recent study showed that 89% of men attending fertility clinics had BPA in their system. The bottom line is, you should avoid drinking from plastic bottles and use glass or stainless steel whenever possible to avoid lowering your testosterone levels.


Sleep deprivation - Sleep deprivation is a very common problem in our society. For middle-aged and older men (and even younger men), lack of sleep is proven to decrease morning testosterone levels. Eve Van Cauter, PhD, professor in medicine at University of Chicago, found that men who slept less than five hours a night for one week in a laboratory had significantly lower levels of testosterone than when they had a full night’s sleep. Low testosterone has a host of negative consequences for young men, and not just in sexual behavior and reproduction. It is critical in building strength and muscle mass, and bone density. Sleep is actually one of the main pillars of health in general, on that same article called “Ali’s pyramid” I have underlined it more in detail.


Sexual activity - Research studies show that men who have more sex or even stare at attractive women have increased testosterone levels. Thinking about and having intercouse is important to male health. I know this one sounds funny, but facts are facts. Another interesting fact is, pornography addiction is causing same outcome. Research has shown that men who watch pornography frequently tend to have lower testosterone levels than those who don’t. “Porn addiction can lead to desensitization to sexual stimuli, which can decrease arousal and lead to difficulties achieving and maintaining an erection,” clinical sexologist and psychotherapist Dr. Rob Weiss told the New York Post.


Exercise - Regular exercise naturally boosts your testosterone levels but do too much of it and it can have adverse effects. Researchers at the University of North Carolina suggest that high-intensity exercises are linked to a lower sex drive and lower testosterone levels. Therefore, a more moderated general physical activity on weekly basis is a MUST for a man. I have outlined the importance of this as well in that same article “Ali’s pyramid”.


Stress - In my opinion this is the worst T-level killer. Chronic stress raises cortisol levels making it hard for your hormones to pass through central pathways. This suppresses reproductive hormone secretion, including testosterone. Stress can majorly affect your health including testosterone levels. Unfortunately, the lower your testosterone, the more likely your stress levels will rise again. This puts your body into a destructive cycle. However, managing your stress levels can help improve your low T symptoms including sex drive, moodiness, and ability to sleep.


Therefore, there are multiple ways how you can reverse the descent of testosterone. On top of which you can use supplements as well. You might think, what does healthy testosterone levels lead to? According to National library of medicine’s research paper – Restoring testosterone levels to within the normal range can improve many of the effects of hypogonadism. Most importantly, these include beneficial effects on mood, energy levels and patients’ sense of well-being, sexual function, lean body mass and muscle strength, erythropoiesis and bone mineral density (BMD), cognition and some benefits on cardiovascular risk factors.


What saddens me the most with all these findings is that, we are destructing our hormonal background with all these above mentioned activities and we are passing on these genes to our next generation. Breeding even “weaker” men or “Piglets”. Overall, having balanced testosterone levels can lead to Confidence. Here is what one of my favorite authors James Clear (author of Atomic Habits) has to say on the topic.


“Recent research coming out of Harvard University, The University of Oregon, The University of Texas and many other places is revealing that powerful and effective leaders not only share similar mindsets, but also similar hormone levels. More specifically, powerful leaders tend to have higher levels of testosterone and lower levels of cortisol. Higher levels of testosterone (in both men and women) lead to increased feelings of confidence. Meanwhile, lower levels of cortisol lead to decreased anxiety and an improved ability to deal with stress. Here’s what that means: if you enjoy these hormone levels, then you are biologically primed to be more assertive, confident, and relaxed. At the same time, you will be less reactive to stress and more likely to handle pressure situations well. In other words, the correct hormone levels can make you feel more confident and less stressed.”


CONSPIRACIES, OR NOT SO MUCH…

How much have you looked at activities of such companies as State street, Vanguard or Black rock? All of the three companies are asset management companies. Combined they manage roughly 20 trillion in assets. 88% of the companies on S&P 500 are owned by either State street, Vanguard or Black rock, as the largest shareholder. 


If you google largest defense contractors, aircraft manufacturers, pharmaceuticals, food industry, media, filmmaking & other major industries, you will see a similar picture. Only 2 countries in the world have more assets under management than Black Rock, those are United States of America & China. This should give you an idea on how enormous and powerful these companies are. These companies are in charge of what we eat, what we fight for or against, what we watch, what we listen to, what we consume, what we drink, what we celebrate and etc. Let me remind you, 88% is enough to control the world and all the narratives that are going on. 


On a global scale, since the 1960s, there are huge spikes in the following; 


  • Drug usage

  • Alcoholism

  • Nicotine consumption & lung cancer

  • Obesity

  • Chronic diseases 

  • Heart & cardiovascular related diseases

  • Autism, ADHD, Dyslexia, Alzheimer’s

  • Social activism 

  • Atheism


Do not get me even started on corporate ESG ratings & it’s sudden emerging importance. This vague but yet, conspiracy filled section can be dragged on and on until we hit terms like “population control”. Too many touch-points for a debate. Therefore,  I do not want to go into too much unnecessary details in this topic for the following reason, all sections I have outlined before are undeniable facts, causes & repercussions. However, this conspiracy'ish section is a bit vague & is my humble attempt to connect the dots for you. Scientists usually say that “if something can not be proven or disproven, then its a possibility”. Makes you wonder doesn't it?


PROJECTION FOR THE FUTURE OF MEN FOR THE NEXT GENERATIONS


As we look to the future, the evolution of men will continue to unfold in unforeseen and profound ways. With each passing generation, society will grapple with questions of identity, equality, and social justice, shaping the landscape of masculinity for generations to come. Through it all, men will navigate the complexities of gender and identity with resilience, empathy, and a commitment to creating a more equitable world for all. 


One might wonder, why the author bothered to research this topic at this depth & to this level. The answer is simple. “When you understand that every opinion is a vision loaded with personal history, you will begin to understand that every judgement is a confession”. I too, have been the victim of this subtle transformation of my kind. Once I understood the toll it is taking on my personal life, career, health, emotional state, character and general well-being, I took action. Reversed a few things, readjusted my diet, regimen, certain traits & behaviors as well. Although I have kept my high end face wash, the rest of bits & pieces of my routines got realigned. Teachings of stoicism, lessons taken from Marcus Aurelius & Lucius Aunnaeus Seneca serves as a fundament that I built my house on. Furthermore, some weigh bearing pillars were crafted by the help of characters like David Goggins, Jocko Willink, Chris Williamson and so on.


I honestly think that I was awakened before the collapse, what we are seeing on the global media landscape is daunting. It will get worse before it gets better! It is up to you comrade to decide - to become a domesticated piglet or fucking boar.


Pura Vida!



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